Get closer to the love you want.
A membership for people who are ready to date with more courage, clarity, and connection. A private community of intentional, authentic daters, weekly live calls with relational experts, The Authentic Dating Course, a growing library of recordings and resources, and invitations to Closer events in your city.
Join from anywhere · Events in San Diego, Los Angeles, San Francisco, Denver, and Boulder
Why Closer exists
Dating can bring up everything: hope, attraction, uncertainty, longing, self-protection, excitement, disappointment, and courage.
Most people are trying to navigate all of that alone. They swipe, message, overthink, go on dates, lose momentum, repeat old patterns, and wonder why something that matters so much can feel so disconnected.
We created Closer for people who want something more real. A return to real human connection, real depth, real intimacy, real aliveness.
Closer is a membership that gives you people to practice with, guidance when you feel stuck, tools for building genuine connection, and a private community where real, authentic human connection is front and center. And when we host an event in your city, you're invited.
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You'll learn practical ways to bring more honesty, curiosity, and real connection into your dating life, from the moment of initial contact, through the first date, and beyond.
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Your membership includes
Closer brings together the things that usually live in separate places: a community of people dating the way you want to, weekly live calls with relational experts, course training, a library of recordings and resources, matchmaking consideration, and live events. Come for the community, the guidance, the introductions, or the personal growth. Most members use all of it.
A private community of intentional, authentic daters. Create a profile, ask the questions you'd usually keep to yourself, share what's working, get honest perspective before and after dates, and support each other along the way. Everyone here is practicing the same thing, and sometimes the person you meet in the community is the person you were hoping to meet.
Expert-led live calls where your real dating life becomes the material. Bring your questions, situations, patterns, messages, first-date nerves, attraction dilemmas, heartbreaks, hopes, and confusion. Get coaching from relational experts and learn from members practicing the same things.
Full, ongoing access to a 23-lesson video course by Ryel Kestano, co-founder of ART International and author of Authentic Relating. The skills that turn dates into genuine connection: presence, curiosity, emotional honesty, attraction, boundaries, and meeting another person without performing.
Every call is recorded and searchable, alongside the practices, guides, and other resources we add as we go. Wondering how to handle ghosting? Confused about chemistry? Nervous before a first date? Unsure whether to send the text? Find guidance from real coaching conversations, whenever you need it.
Facilitated evenings for singles, guided by relational experts, where conversation goes far beyond small talk. We host them in San Diego, Los Angeles, San Francisco, Denver, and Boulder. As a member you're invited to every one, included in your membership, with priority when seats are limited.
Included for membersJoin the private database of vetted singles at Sophy Love, our sister company. Your information is never public, never sold, and never shown as a swipe profile. Professional matchmakers may consider you for personal introductions based on values, lifestyle, emotional readiness, attraction, and real compatibility. The Sophy Love coaches and matchmakers support this community too, and bring everything they've learned about building relationships to it.
The practice behind Closer
Closer is built on authentic relating, a relational practice developed over decades. It maps every conversation across three levels of intimacy.
"I work in HR at an insurance company downtown."
Facts, logistics, small talk. The newspaper of your life. Useful, but nobody falls for a resume.
"Honestly, I'd rather spend my life doing something I love."
Feelings, values, what actually matters to you. The diary of your life. This is where a person starts to appear.
"I notice how lit up I feel telling you this."
The present moment, spoken out loud. This is where people feel truly seen and where real chemistry lives. Our facilitators guide every call and every event here.
You'll practice this on every call and at every event, and it will change more than your dating life. Members tell us it changes how they relate to everyone.
"I wish dating always felt like this."
"I felt safe being vulnerable because everyone else was doing it too."
"I loved getting to the juicy stuff instead of staying stuck in surface conversation."
of participants said they learned something that will make their dates better
mutual matches created at a single Closer event
would recommend a Closer event to a friend
"By the end, I felt like I hadn't made meaningless small talk or robotically evaluated people with checklists. I was getting to know them in real life."
Membership
Join from anywhere. Every part of Closer is included: the community, the weekly calls, the course, the library, matchmaking consideration, and invitations to live events in San Diego, Los Angeles, San Francisco, Denver, and Boulder. Cancel anytime.
Monthly
For anyone, anywhere, who wants to date with real support, real community, and people to practice with.
Founding member pricing. Your rate stays the same for as long as you're a member.
Yearly
Pay for the year and get two months free. Same membership, same founding member rate, one less thing to think about.
Founding member pricing. Rates will rise as Closer grows, and founding members keep their rate.
How it works
Choose monthly or yearly, create your member profile, and tell us who you are and what you're looking for.
Meet the community, watch The Authentic Dating Course, search the library, and bring your real questions to the weekly calls.
Get to know members on the calls and in the community. Join the Sophy Love matchmaking database so the team can consider you for thoughtful introductions. And when we host an event in your city, you're invited.
Use Closer before dates, after dates, during confusing moments, and whenever you want support moving toward the relationship you want with more courage and clarity.
Who it's for
You want a real relationship and want to date with more intention.
You are tired of dating feeling private, confusing, and unsupported.
You want to meet people in environments that feel more human.
You want help understanding your patterns.
You want to become more confident expressing attraction, desire, and boundaries.
You value emotional maturity, curiosity, and real conversation.
You want more than tips. You want practice, support, and community.
You are willing to show up, participate, and be known.
Closer is for people who want dating to become a path of connection, growth, and courage.
Founders & resident experts
Authentic Relating
Co-founder and former CEO and Senior Course Leader of ART International, and author of Authentic Relating: A Guide to Rich, Meaningful, Nourishing Relationships.
Matchmaking
Founder of Sophy Love, Closer's sister company. Her coaches and matchmakers support this community, bring everything they've learned about building relationships to it, and consider members for personal introductions.
Where we gather
Closer events are included in your membership. When a date opens in your city, members hear first and get priority. Depending on the event and how many people register, a limited number of seats may be open to non-members. See how events work.
